Maybe, but the only things I can think of are time consuming in a way that's not really compatible with hosting:-/
- say something like 'sorry, I'm tired, I'm not sure I've explained it very well - can you tell me what I've just said to you, to check I've not missed anything out'. I deliberately use a self deprecating formulation when I'm trying to check understanding with adults because it can sound very 'adult to child', but that's not necessary.
- give them a job to do, so there's something for them to focus on that isn't being worried.
- sit with them and let them ramble at you, making approving noises every so often, using your calmness / stillness to help them calm [really not compatible with hosting]
- encourage them to go home + come back another day, say the event will still be there and if they're not up for it today, that's OK.
- call them on it 'I've explained x three times now, you still seem really anxious. Is there something I could do right now that might help?' or ask them explicitly 'what's wrong?' 'is everything ok?' [runs the risk of you getting into an emotionally complex conversation]
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branchandroot
Re: non-logistical concerns
Date: 2024-12-06 09:21 pm (UTC)- say something like 'sorry, I'm tired, I'm not sure I've explained it very well - can you tell me what I've just said to you, to check I've not missed anything out'. I deliberately use a self deprecating formulation when I'm trying to check understanding with adults because it can sound very 'adult to child', but that's not necessary.
- give them a job to do, so there's something for them to focus on that isn't being worried.
- sit with them and let them ramble at you, making approving noises every so often, using your calmness / stillness to help them calm [really not compatible with hosting]
- encourage them to go home + come back another day, say the event will still be there and if they're not up for it today, that's OK.
- call them on it 'I've explained x three times now, you still seem really anxious. Is there something I could do right now that might help?' or ask them explicitly 'what's wrong?' 'is everything ok?' [runs the risk of you getting into an emotionally complex conversation]