a kind of grief
Aug. 28th, 2018 09:42 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
brainwaneI wish I could go back in time and tell my dad:
If you are capriciously angry, sometimes yelling, you will raise at least one child who has an incredibly hard time dealing with her own or others' anger.
If you sometimes punish your children for their bug reports, you will raise at least one child who dreads telling you when something is wrong.
Realization stimulated by reading a bunch of hilarious and often heartwarming family stories, e.g., on togetherness and "Literally nobody in my house yelled. Ever. It was a rule." which is mindboggling.
(My father died in 2010.)
If you are capriciously angry, sometimes yelling, you will raise at least one child who has an incredibly hard time dealing with her own or others' anger.
If you sometimes punish your children for their bug reports, you will raise at least one child who dreads telling you when something is wrong.
Realization stimulated by reading a bunch of hilarious and often heartwarming family stories, e.g., on togetherness and "Literally nobody in my house yelled. Ever. It was a rule." which is mindboggling.
(My father died in 2010.)
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Date: 2018-08-29 12:16 am (UTC)